Dating Battleships: The Secret To Online Dating SuccessNov 13, 2023
Most of the thrust of Rightswiper is designed to get you matching up with high value Rightswipers who, hopefully, will enrich your life as much as you enrich theirs.
However, Rightswiper also reaches into the zone of the first date and in the audio book and the video course in the VIP area of Rightswiper.com you will find a chapter which helps you with that first face to face contact.
The advice we are about to give you now is just as valuable to offline dating as it is to online dating but actually it is more focused on to the online dating world.
In the offline dating world (meeting somebody at work or at a bar while partying the night away) the chances are that the person you are trying to date is one of one, in other words, the only one, or, if not, a very small number. This is because opportunities in the offline world appear to be much fewer than in the online dating world.
High vs Low Value
In the online dating world, the high value Rightswiper you are trying to meet will likely have numerous other choices to pick from and therefore you have to increase your chances of realising that meet.
Trouble is, too many in the online dating game seem to be playing Dating Battleships!
Battleships is a simple, decades old game which is definitely worth getting up to speed with, so here comes a description for the newbies, a reminder for the old hands.
There are various plasticky commercial versions of Battleships but the great thing about it is you don’t need a single cent to make your own game.
So, you need two pieces of card, and both players draw a grid making a finished product of 10 squares by ten squares. This is your battleground, which in this case is the ocean.
You assign a letter to the columns and a number to the rows of the grid at the end so you can identify each square individually.
Then you decide on which Battleships you will both have. For example, you might decide to have a large aircraft carrier. This may take up 5 squares in your 100 square grid. If you are artistically minded, you can draw an aircraft carrier onto these five squares, but if you like you can just shade in the 5 squares and put the letters AC somewhere in them so you know you have an aircraft carrier there.
Next, you might take up 4 squares which an actual battleship. Draw this on your grid and your fleet is shaping up nicely.
The next step is to place a cruiser, this is perhaps only 2 squares. Then a submarine might take up 3 squares and finally, perhaps, a destroyer which may take up 2 more squares.
So now you have your fleet and you are ready to play. Your opponent will have done the same thing so it’s vital that you don’t see each other’s fleet positions.
You decide who goes first and then that player randomly guesses where you might have part of your fleet.
They may call out E5.
You check on your grid - there is nothing on E5 on your grid so it’s your turn. In the meantime, your opponent crosses off E5 on their grid so they don’t attack it again.
If you get one of squares with something on it, it’s a HIT. If you don’t, it’s a MISS.
If you get a HIT, you get another go, if it’s a miss, it’s your opponent’s turn.
It doesn’t take Sherlock Holmes to work out that the winner is the one who destroys the enemy battleships first.
It’s a fun game and just writing about it makes me want to go off and find my son and see if he wants to play it. I know he won’t because he has a first class degree in Computer Science and Artificial Intelligence.
I know you’re wondering what this has to do with dating. A lot.
Too many people miss out on their Rightswipers because they are playing Battleships when it comes to making a date, particularly the first one.
If you agree with someone that you are going to meet for the first time, then one of you is going to have to make a suggestion.
Here’s where the problem lies...you suggest meeting for a coffee on January 4th.
The Rightswiper says...I can’t make the 4th. In other words, it’s a MISS in Dating Battleships, not a HIT.
Now here’s the key, all too often the Rightswiper will simply leave it at that. They’ve told you that’s a miss...then...nothing.
Invariably you will try again. OK, what about the 6th ?
Sorry, says the Rightswiper, I’m looking after my friend’s kids on that day. Then...nothing.
You can see where this is going. While a MISS might be great fun in the Battleships game, it’s no fun at all in the dating game.
So you continue...what about the 7th ?
Ah, sorry says the Rightswiper, I’ve got a party on the 7th.
By this time, you are getting frustrated.
However, if you are the Rightswiper in this scenario, then you are doing it ALL wrong.
If you’ve agreed with someone to have a date and they suggest a day...and you can’t do it, don’t just say you can’t do it, SUGGEST some days when you are free!
Otherwise, your potential date is simply going to suggest a few days and if you keep pushing back they are eventually going to think that they are wasting their time and that maybe you’re not all that interested anyway, or simply that you don’t have any time for a partner.
And if you keep just batting them off without making suggestions of when you CAN meet, they will get very bored, very quickly.
And because in the world of online dating, the Rightswiper has many more choices than in offline dating, you will have lost them in the blink of an eye.
So, the golden rule is that when you are trying to meet, if your potential date suggests a date you cannot do, then come back with details of when you could.
Otherwise, you’ve worked hard to get to this point for nothing.
Good luck in your search.
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